How can I deal better with nerves?
This thread is about the anxiety I get when I find myself in trouble for something. Yeah yeah, stay out of trouble in the first place, I know. Hear me out though. For the most part, I DO stay out of trouble, but I think that's the problem in the first place. I'm rarely confronted for doing something wrong, but on the occasion that I do, I just lock up and the nerves get the better of me. Whether it's a cop or college staff, I just go braindead. I can't talk properly or string a sentence together which really sucks. If I could talk like I can when I'm not nervous, I'd be able to talk my way out of a LOT of stuff.
I know it's a fact that I need to man up when it comes to it, but I rarely get confronted for doing something wrong so I don't really have the experience anymore. When I was younger, I used to get in shit quite a lot. It's died down since growing up, but there's always the odd occasion.
Anyway, how do you think I can combat these nerves?
I know it's a fact that I need to man up when it comes to it, but I rarely get confronted for doing something wrong so I don't really have the experience anymore. When I was younger, I used to get in shit quite a lot. It's died down since growing up, but there's always the odd occasion.
Anyway, how do you think I can combat these nerves?
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Learn how to breathe properly
Think about the problem
relax
kick ass
Breathing techniques... Hmm. What's the best method of breathing to maximize relaxation? This could be useful, as well as getting my mind to stay focused.
Control is the hard part. Practice makes perfect.
Can you define the kick ass ?, am not joking really:) am a Faggot when it comes to kick ass, I prefer to run the hell out as quickly as possible , rather than stay and kick ass, but will act as total perfect in advance guy , though if the other one is crazy enough to not buy my bluff , I will follow the run the hell out of there......:facepalm:
Any suggestions ?:o
Not running or stuttering when being confronted. Stand your ground
dont look away. Give eye contact and show your not a bitch.
so do steps 1 2 3
and more than likely you'll still get the shit beat out of you
but at least you will take an ass whopping like a man. :cool:
Not if you do it right.
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2.
3. So on and so forth. When you have a plan of action, you are no longer helpless and now you are in control because you have something to do. That is my theory anyway
It's hard to think in bullet points when you're on the spot being confronted though. I guess it might help to plan ahead, in case you're caught doing something daft. Know what you're going to say when you're caught, kinda thing.
Also this to some extent. You can't teach it, and I can't give advice for it. You need to be in a constantly stressful situation in order to achieve the mindset.
this just dont give a fuck about it, dont make yourself think you're in trouble play it calm n cool. i haz a feeling the reason you get nervous is because u never lied too many times.
Holy shit, I like this one! Fuck, that's awesome
Something that can go hand in hand with this is heart rate, naturally it's not something you can control as easily since your sympathetic nervous system (I think it's that one) won't slow it down until it perceives you as out of danger. However this can make it easier to notice in the first place since it seems so much louder. Just listen to it and think "slow" it might not actually slow down but at least when you focus on it you won't notice whatever it is that's causing the anxiety as much....ideally, anyway.
Beyond that, I find it helps to move, not in a walking sort of way, just flail wildly to dissipate energy, it probably doesn't help but it feels quite satisfying. In situations where this would appear inappropriate, just don't do it.
Construct sentences in advance of the situation and commit them to memory (very easy if you have a performance). The important thing is not that you use these sentences when you are confronted. That probably won't help. But if you can get your headspace ordered enough to recall unrelated sentences it's more likely that you can create new responses on the spot.
There's probably more to it. I have an exam next week I'll see if I can add anything then.