In conversation I'm never lively, I can't think of smart or interesting replies or conversation starters. I used to be really good with people, I'm not really sure what happened.
After a conversation I will think of great replies, especially in arguments, but never at the time. I'm not shy, I do whatever I want, around whoever I want. I just can't think of anything to say sometimes. I'm introverted, but this shouldn't make it this difficult to carry a conversation. I could've just numbed my brain from years of abuse. Even though internally I feel smarter, more aware, than I have ever been. In the exterior world I'm slow and disconnected.
EDIT: Maybe this thread would be more suitable in N&N?
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I really wouldn't be bothered about being too loud and "extroverted" either. People who are "outgoing," "talkative," "sociable,"and friendly; psychometrically speaking, score high on the Extraversion personality dimension, they are also much lower in the Neuroticism dimension. A combination of high Extraversion and low Neuroticism results in a socially dominant personality. Traits like Extraversion and Neuroticism are substantially heritable.
Introverts look upon themselves as the norm and don't tend to speak up if they don’t know the answer to a question in the classroom or any other setting. They also don't like intruding on the privacy of others. Basically they're less rude and arrogant. It's an erroneous assumption that, because extroverts are talkative, they must know what they are talking about. Quite the contrary, it seems more likely to be a mask to cover up for low ability to reason abstractly. This is why niggers appear to be more extroverted. Really, all you need to attract a female is be a good bullshitter (believe your own bullshit) or be very rich and/or violent.
As for friendship, just find those who are similar to you. I've learnt that with any kind of relationship, be it sexual or just a friendship; you're most likely to form them when you're not going out looking for it. Kin-selection/genetic similarity theory explains this well.
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Talk your bullshit and believe in it. Shit works....seriously
I like people, I don't have a problem relating to any particular type. I see it as marketing myself more than interactive socialization. Approach them at their level, don't over talk, makes them fell intimidated and don't lower yourself, or those MFs will see a weakness and feed off it.
Personally I always portrayed you as quite sociable and seemed quite easy to relate to.
It's strange. Some people, some days, for no reason that I notice. I can have an enlightening, intellectual or amusing conversation. Especially with people I barely know.
Then other times I'll hardly talk to people that are my best mates, well enough new arrivals. I'll just say nothing and watch the others talk.
I used to 'act', I would analyse a situation then behave as the others in that situation did. For some reason I decided to stop that and just be myself. Now I can't get back in to the fraudulent persona, and myself is just fucking boring.
Alcohol is good, why do you think I love it so much?
I'm not sure if this is necessary ITT, but I never have trouble shooting the shit with guys; I have a natural rapport with people who enjoy getting belligerently drunk/high and like dirty/racist jokes, and that's really all you need to socialize with any dudes worth hangin with.
booze helps.
Intelligent Conversation with the Opposite Sex - by Johnny Walker.
100 Of The Greatest Pickup Lines - by Jack Daniels.
Yee-Haaa! I'm Gonna get me Some Tonight - by Pepe Lopez
She Was Old Enough To Be My Granny - by Jim Beam
or Bitch and moan.
what are you worried about? Start a convo.
the key is to listen to her. then offer her money for a BJ
works everytime