Category: The Stash

I’ve been reading TRP for a few years now, and am finally making progress. First thing I had to do was to get single again.

Six weeks ago I ended things with my ex, of 2yrs+. I’ve struggled with PMO addiction for a long time. I realized reading TRP that I just wasn’t attracted to my LTR girlfriend any longer. She was constantly complaining about all of her friends getting married, she was getting older, you should buy me a ring, etc……

To make matters worse, she had changed quite a bit from the sexy young Latina girl I fell for. She stopped going to the gym, gained 15+lbs and wasn’t down for sex as much as was. Since February, I’ve rededicated myself to the gym and lifting to be the most powerful person I can be. I tend to put on muscle pretty easy (and naturally) so when I start training, my sex drive tends to go from corvette to formula one race car.

The thing that has always bothered me was that she claimed to “choose me” when we first met a bar several years ago. I’ve always felt like she was high 7HB but she, like many American women all tend to think of themselves as a 12/10.

I’ve seen many good men in my day get divorced raped. I don’t want to end up the same way. I told this to my LTR and she flipped out stating our relationship was a “waste of time”, her being 28yo and approaching the wall FAST. She told me she fuckin loved me and cried a mountain of tears. I held frame and said there’s nothing else to be said, I don’t love you, I’m too selfish.

I’ve moved into a new apartment and she has literally stalked me and been waiting outside my place multiple times since the break-up trying to “talk”. She says eventually I’ll come to my senses and get back together. When a woman gets blindsided, it’s crazy how crazy they can get.

My question is this: Why do I feel like a piece of shit? The ex is a decent HB7, educated, good with money, good family. I want to fuck around I guess? Am I just too used to being comfortable in a LTR? I broke free and now the world seems large again. It’s crazy how we can distract our minds to the real possibilities in front of us. I plan to continue lifting, working on my small business idea, and creating a new circle of friends.

I went out solo a few weekends ago and forced myself to interact with people. Sure, I had a couple crash and burn moments, but I realized that I can control my reality. I watched the NBA Finals and made a couple friends.

Here’s my field report.

1. Some people just hate their life. It’s okay to excuse yourself from the Debbie Downers of the world.
2. Some women are SOO boring. Absolutely nothing to add or say or be funny or sexy. I can’t believe how many women try to get by on looks.
3. Always be closing, unless you’re trying to practice and move on.
4. Don’t get too drunk.

Within 2 days of breaking up, I met a 32yo classy MILF off Bumble and was having amazing sex her. I was attracted to her and her to me. I’m also working to plate a 25yo nursing student. I’m going to try and maximize my 30’s and beyond.

Lastly, I just wanted to thank everyone that contributes to this sub. I’m constantly nodding my head in agreement as I learn TRP psychology.

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In my younger and dumber days, I noticed that after I hooked up with a certain type of girl (i.e. girls from clubs, or drama queen “bad girl” types in general) if I later asked them out on some boring regular date, they would mostly disappear. A long time later, I learned how to keep those plates spinning if I wanted to (basically all the stuff you guys talk about on here).

But these days I’m lazy af when it comes to women and I find that dealing with crazy and/or going out with women who are only marginally into you is always way more hassle than it’s worth. Also, I think you need a different tact if you actually want a healthy, happy relationship.

So, if I’m looking for a relationship, what I do is simple: After I sleep with a girl, I’ll be a little overly nice on purpose just to see how she reacts. I think the terms alpha and beta are kind of stupid, but in pua speak, I’ll go just a little beta. I’ll compliment her in some overly romantic way or I’ll call her very soon after. Or maybe I’ll ask her out on a standard movie dinner date. And in my experience this works great.

The girls who weren’t that into you in the first place and were looking for an out will take it. The player types who hate normal dating will disappear. The psychos who can’t handle any positive attention from guys and the drama queens who need constant tension will vanish in a hurry.

Buuuut…

The normal girls – i.e. undamaged, drama free, good family, etc. – who are really into you will roll with this even if they find it a little awkward or romantic is not their usual style. And the sweetheart romantic types… Well they will respond overwhelmingly positively. And from there, if that’s what you want, boom, instant nice, non-crazy girlfriend.

And, on a related point, for those of you who insist that being a nice guy is “weak” I will say this: If “maintaining your alpha frame” 24-7 is that important to you, the drama queen in your relationships is you. Learning some game is great and necessary, but after you’ve done that, you have to know when to apply it. You can’t stay constantly “alpha” over the course of months and months with a relationship oriented girl. If you try, you will either (a) eventually make her think you’re a douchebag or (b) slowly turn a happy girl into damaged goods with trust issues. I’m telling you, if you want a girlfriend, relax with the “I must be alpha all the time!!!” mindset. A little nice works great with nice girls.

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Life in the Western world has been getting significantly easier for years and years now. Now, rather than going out and hunting for your food or having to grown whatever you needed, you just pop on over to the grocery store and buy whatever you need, or, if you’re one of the masses for whom discipline is an unknown, you head to your nearest fast-food joint and order the Triple-Bypass Burger with Extra Large Heart Disease.

With ease, of course, comes softness. Men are becoming more and more feminised, allowing themselves to abide by philosophies that seek to demonise them at every turn while still extracting the maximum resources from them.

One of the enduring myths that have arisen in this feminised society is that relationships should be equal. You and the woman should always be on level ground, engaging on equal footing. This is false.

Here is the crux of it: If you and your woman are equal, then she has the upper hand. There is no such thing as equality in relationships. Someone must always be leading, whether by default or by selection. This branch of thinking that advocates for equality is the same that has ruined parenting and produced entitled brats who can’t even handle having someone disagree with them without descending into fits of emotional breakdown.

Equality is pushed as part of the agenda to bring men down. Tell me of one alpha you know, a single man who lives on his edge, who has what can be described as equal, or who is led in his personal life by his wife. The fact of the matter is that if you’re living to your fullest, expending yourself daily in pursuit of your mission, that dedication to control and steering the ship extends outward. No man who is truly in control of his life would ever cede emotional hegemony to a woman. Women are fundamentally regulated by emotion, which means that every decision and play that’s made in the relationship is carried out to shore up her feelings and validate her emotions.

If you seek equality within your relationship, you’re giving up your status. A vast number men have gone so soft–even here–that they delude themselves into thinking that a woman’s leadership would make them happy. These are the men who date “confident, sex-positive women” and cucked to kingdom come because the woman has no sense of regard for them nor any respect at all.

So-called equality makes exactly no one happy. When a man leads, he not only fulfills his imperative as a creator, but he also activates the core impulses in a woman that demand she find a man who is capable of caring for her and her offspring. Why would a woman ever give herself to someone who expects her to carry the slack of the relationship and be the one who steers it?

Someone is always leading in relationships. It had damn sure better be you.

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I’ll first preface this by saying that there certainly are toxic parent and in-law behaviors that aren’t excusable, but this post will focus mostly on the traditional healthy input of parents into a relationship and its breakdown.

The “mother in law” is a common trope in media. Mostly, it’s the new modern day “womyn” wife who is consistently at odds with her traditional mother in law. The annoying mother in law is always telling her son that “she’s no good for you” and always trying to get the new wife to learn to cook or clean. Much laughs are had because this old-fashioned hag has no idea how women in the 21st century are supposed to behave.

Let’s take a look at who this mother in law is. In terms of this context she is usually a traditional woman who married young and raised her children well, while keeping the nuclear family she created in tact. She’s usually the last of a dying traditional breed, or some sort of immigrant to the West. Family is her life. She gets pleasure from providing a good meal from her kids, or seeing them succeed with the good morals and values she instilled in them. She’s still with her husband and is a good wife, and hopes to be a good grandmother as well. This is a woman who managed to overcome her biology, and once married, became a dutiful wife, generally removing herself from situations where she would even be tempted to stray from her family. However, having been a young single girl once herself, and from her female peers at that time and since, she is fully aware of the dangers of female hypergamy. Even if she started dating her now husband after the sexual revolution, she generally has kept pre-revolution values.

Enter this new woman that her son starts bringing around. Just from the stock of women that are available to choose nowadays, she’s probably immediately noticeable as a disappointment to the mother. She doesn’t have a chaste or feminine demeanor, she’s not shy about the fact that she’s had ex-boyfriends, she seems to have no interest in being the type of wife that will keep a respectable home. Immediately the soon-to-be mother in law’s ears perk up. This is a type of woman that used to be a rare undesirable breed when she was growing up, but now her son is bringing this into her home?

Time passes, the new girlfriend nags with phrases like “Why does your mom hate me?” and “I feel like your parent’s never accept me”, but generally the guy is enough of a beta to try to please both sides, bending over backwards to accommodate this new woman, and they eventually marry. However, the point of view of the mother in law cannot be simply thrown away, I think understanding the root of this meme, this punchline, is key to what is happening in society. In general, this type of polite disapproval is coming from a woman who has nothing to gain by competing with young girls. She’s not jealous, she’s not trying to get a more alpha man. She’s a woman herself who has avoided the CC (although is was more normal to avoid it in her day) and knows what women who have ridden it are capable of. She’s just trying to avoid her son from poisoning the well with a 21st century modern day womyn.

In fact, easy acceptance by family has turned into something of a red flag for me. It’s become almost a taboo in Western society for parents to voice any concerns or disapproval on their kid’s boyfriends or girlfriends. “If he’s good enough for her, and she likes him, he’s good enough for me”. In my experience, do you know who is most “instantly accepting” of you as a potential boyfriend? Single mothers, trashy families, parents used to “turnover” or “churn” from dating or divorce in their extended family or friend’s dating lives. You should get an idea that they expect some permanence out of a relationship. A good father will want a man who dates his daughter to ring the doorbell, introduce himself, and be invited over for a meal eventually if dating continues. I once had a plate who told me that a guy had never done that for her. Every single one had sat in the car and texted “Here”. Of course she was a slut with a self reported n-count over 30 (I’m not kidding) but that’s the type of behavior a girl like her with a family like hers tolerates.

Families should want to know who you are. If you’re eventually invited to family vacations (again, this happening too early is a bit of a red flag) it’s a good sign if her father politely explains that he’d prefer you two sleep in separate rooms or beds. They will want to thoroughly vet you, and they should. Likewise, if you have an intact family, you should want a girl to accept being “vetted” on some level, knowing that her behavior will clearly make her suitable as being accepted by your family. We are entering uncharted territories with the general filth that is out there for dating, and I believe that if you chose to take the risk of LTRs, a slow “proving process”, a strong filter, is necessary to make sure that the woman is worthy of you.

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